3. Do the background work for your attorney.
No one knows your case like you do. Over time, your attorney (hopefully) will learn it, but it will take time. You can shorten the learning curve by drafting a timeline and a list of key names. If you have supporting documents, organize them and make copies.
4. Be an active participant in your litigation.
Even diligent attorneys will occasionally miss facts and arguments. Don't be afraid to ask your lawyer questions and offer suggestions and corrections, especially as to the facts of your case. However, don't overdo it. Discovering your inner lawyer may be counterproductive and costly. Talking to your lawyer about key facts in your case can be helpful; talking extensively to her about your latest legal theory will likely only slow down your case and irritate her.
5. Produce evidence that supports your case.
Certainly, you talking about your own case is strong evidence. But your lawyer (not to mention courts and jurors) will want to know whether other evidence supports your case. If there are e-mails, performance reviews, and other written documents, find them and give them to your lawyer in an organized fashion. You can even highlight important portions. Also think about who can support important facts about your case. Did your assistant, for instance, see your boss stroke your hair in a weirdly inappropriate way? Is there anyone who can talk about the emotional distress? A good friend? Spouse? Doorman?
But be careful. Resist any urge to turn into a gumshoe investigator. There is nothing wrong with you combing through your own e-mail for relevant documents. But trying to convert co-workers into witnesses or searching through workplace databases that you are not authorized to access could result in your employer suing you. Just let your attorney know who could be witnesses and where evidence might be. She can use an investigator and the federal rules of discovery to get this information.
6. See a doctor.
If you suffer from mental distress as a result of your employer's actions, go see a psychologist or psychiatrist. You do not need medical testimony to be eligible to receive damages for pain and suffering, but your claim will have more value if someone with an MD or PhD behind his or her name can tell the jury about the effect the discrimination has had on you.